Theory of Geni(t)al Relativity
Big Bang explained the creation of the universe.
Evolution transformed an ape into a human (though very few humans still strongly persevering traits of ape).
Progress necessitated the entering of a human on to the Space.
Misogynists ranted about men doing things with more acumen.
……Nature gifted women with hymen.
But what logical theory can explain the necessity of so rigidly maintaining some quasi-values in the Caucasus (moslem/asian society) which are typical and traditional to primitive societies? Why is it so important to keep hymen intact before marriage. And this notion is not to be mixed with virginity. Because paradoxically, presence of hymen does not necessarily mean remaining virgin and vice versa.
I understand that there is a religious, moral side of this issue; therefore I take no interest in reflecting on them here. Rather, I tend to approach this issue from a bit alternative view.
At times I catch myself realizing that idea of keeping hymen intact is another form of ideological propaganda imposed on minds from the start of civilization by some selfish men-fathers. Why men? The answer is simple. In primitive societies while men were involved in hunting and spent more of their time outside of house, they wanted to make sure that their daughters would remain pure. And how would it possible to make it sure? Of course, by checking if everything was in place. This tactic was developed by fathers for the benefit of the future husbands of their daughters. By drawing a taboo of sexual contact before marriage fathers guaranteed that their daughters would all be physically pleased by their husbands with no choice of comparing the present mates with the previous ones. And therefore would remain faithful. Comparison, that is what people of those past ages feared most. As in comparison, truth was born.
Our ancestors were good in agitation. So good they didn’t have a chance to blog. Cant imagine what other “values” would have been instilled in our brains then. Because when an idea is being imposed, it does not become a value, it becomes just a myth. In myth people are prone to believe, as believing is the easiest way of accepting. Whereas for an idea to become a value, it needs to be logically explained, carefully brain-filtered and then freely perceived.
While I am trying to come up with an explanation of the hymen phenomenon, my memory springs back to my university years. A long time ago now I remember debating with my university teacher about the necessity of remaining virgin until the marriage. He argued an interesting but bizarre point of view, rather a theory, which explained the nature and necessity of remaining virgin (= keeping hymen intact).
According to him and an overrated “Theory of First Mate” aka Telegony he believed that woman’s first sex mate genetically becomes father of all her children regardless of who the subsequent father is. That is why it is so important for a woman to remain “pure” so as not to blend genetic traits that may be inherited once woman has more than one sexual partner. I was quite shocked, honestly, to hear such an irrational argument from a person who studied abroad, had three degrees and dated a modern-mind woman. I was even more frustrated to hear him argue such a position not just from a moral, but rather from a scientific point.
Later on, I was absurdly and sadly amused by one story that happened some 5 years ago in one of the distant regions in my country. Why absurdly amused? There was a girl in one family. Her family was quite traditional, religious, of high morals (as society hallmarked). This girl came to a big city to pursue her education. As time passed by, she appeared to be pregnant and virgin at the same time. It turned out (not for all of course) she indulged herself in all forms of sex, except for penetration. But she underestimated smart structure of her genital physiology as it is scientifically proved that there are still slight possibilities of getting pregnant even without deep penetration. Why sadly amused? Because all her tribe (which is less educated) dubbed her almost Saint and was piously supposing it had to do with supernatural powers.
It is still not a trite fact that some members in our society also use hymen as a strategic weapon to make a man marry a girl, at best. And not all that, the families of these girls attach hymen issue to the dignity of a family which becomes shattered as a result of willful defloration.
Sometimes I think that perception of hymen as virginity in our society almost borders with cultural ignorance and profanity. Society tends to estimate girls not due to their character, virtues, education and etc, but rather due to the fact that she is virgin, she has never had sex and therefore she is clean.
As to the virginity, some people also tend to dramatize the most pleasant experience of all their lives and approach first sex as “losing virginity”. Is it so sacrificial so that it appears to be a ritual of initiation?! And no wonder, that in almost all languages, discarding virginity sounds as “losing it”. In some regions of my country this ceremony is indeed a sacred ritual and is the apex of the after-wedding event.
I so much wish we stop thinking about things hymen-deep. Maybe this way we may evolve into a real, civilized homo sapiens, refresh and set our minds on a new frequency in a way it is possible to see other crucial problems and solve them.
That said, in no way do I mean that I am scornful and disrespectful of those who remain virgins (true virgins) and experience sex after marriage. What I mean here is that we can’t close our eyes to the fact that some members of this society do whatever they want and then get surgical somewhere and yesterday’s femme fatale transform into a today’s daddy’s girl. But why do they do this? Because of what others will think and say about them. Suffice it to say, laws of society have always contradicted with the laws of our nature and this has been the core reason of mental, emotional tension and dissatisfaction and other psycho-physical things to come with it.
If the content of the post in any way offends morality, virginity or dignity of any good person, I am sorry. For those who are fake and hypocritical like fake hymens, I am not sorry. After all, I suggest not turning fads of the nature into fetishes to be gifted to the men we love. I believe we have much more precious things to give our men other than an ephemeral layer of tissue.
Have a great sex!
Special thanks to A.Einstein for his Theory of Relativity and saying that “Virginity is not the dignity, but the lack of opportunity” that served as a base for the present post.
